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I used to work a busy schedule pushing 40+ hours a week, dropping in and out of school, paying bills, trying to maintain relationships with my boys plus a girlfriend squeezing in any gym workout time that I could. Everything was complicated AF and I didn’t even have any real responsibility like kids or a mortgage. I felt stuck and I was not happy with where I was in life.
Now I travel the world stress-free while spending most of my free time writing my new ebook. What’s the solution? Let me break down the steps I took in order to simplify and maximize the quality of my life.
Do what you love, love what you do
Most people on this planet do not live their passion and that’s 100% okay. However, the more time you spend doing what you actually like to do will make you happier in the long run. I used to spend my time washing laundry, cleaning my car or buying picture frames to decorate my apartment. It wasn’t until I focused on setting aside time every day I found a more peaceful side of myself.
Start with an hour a day reading a good book, riding your bicycle, writing in a journal, going for a run or walk on the beach while listening to your favorite Adele song.
The past is a ghost, the future a dream and all we ever have is now
This doesn’t mean to greet everyone with “namaste” and find a spot to meditate during your lunch break at work. This means to be okay with the past, not worry about the future, and enjoy the present.
For me, it literally took years to be okay with being cheated on by my high school girlfriend. It destroyed me and my view towards other women for a long time. I look back now realizing that it ruined all my relationships and I couldn’t change until I was able to recognize this. I also couldn’t stop thinking about the future until I decided to say, ya know what, I’m going all in. I’m either to make my dreams come true or I will die trying. I used to catch myself lying with my lover but thinking about work the entire time. Yea, I was physically there but definitely not mentally.
Being present has taught me to avoid becoming distracted in a world full of multitaskers by focusing on what’s directly in front of me. The only thing that matters in this moment is my thoughts being transferred through my fingertips onto the keyboard appearing on the screen so that I can share my message with the world.
Gratitude is my attitude
I used to daydream about the things that I wanted but didn’t actually need. I wanted a hotter girlfriend, darker window tints, danker weed, the new Samsung Galaxy with the better camera, bigger screen, faster processor and the capability to hold a larger micro SD card. I do have a Samsung Galaxy S5 and it works fine. Having this mentality made me always want bigger and better while the result never brought me peace.
A few years ago I lived in my car for a few months sleeping in my back seat trying to save money and finish school. The day I moved into my basement apartment in Centereach I nearly cried with joy to have a comfortable bed to sleep in that night.
The next morning I took up what I call the “Gratitude is my Attitude Challange”. I wrote down one thing I was grateful for each day for 27 days. I know you don’t have to live in your car to appreciate life but it personally changed my life. Everyone has something they are grateful for and this exercise will help you appreciate the little things even if it’s double stuffed Oreos. 🙂 Take the time to post one thing a day for the next 27 days on social media and tag me.
Never spend your money before you have it
I have successfully freed myself from any real obligation to work besides food, water and shelter. I’m talking, relief from a couple thousand dollars in college loans, a $12,000 5-year car loan and back in 2014 I put money down for a condo nearly signing a lease. Others will tell you that this is the next step, right after they suggest that you have children.
My grandfather once mentioned, “I never spend money I don’t have”. At the time it sounded weird but I always thought about it every time I sent in the $189 payment for my car plus $229 for Geico insurance each month. I personally never want to have a burden on my back that forces me to work my ass off for years to come unless I really want to. Plus, I don’t need a degree to travel the world on my bicycle, do I? Get started by selling your car and buying a bicycle. If you still need help, move to an apartment that will cost less than $500 USD per month or ask a friend to borrow the couch.
What will make me happier in the long run? A shiny new car and a 3 bedroom condo that secretly makes you cry as you write the check each month? Or freeing yourself from debt, traveling the world, and sharing stories with your grandkids about what a fulfilling life you’ve had?
The things you own end up owning you
You ever just want to pick up all your stuff and just go travel? You can but first you’ll have to get rid of all your clothes, jewelry, shoes and finally empty that drawer full of random shit.
Even if you don’t want to travel, maybe you are like me and only wore the same 8 shirts anyway so it only makes sense to donate the rest. The more I removed material items from my life the more freedom I felt.
Now I spend literally zero time deciding what clothes to wear because I only have a few shirts. I can fit everything I own on my bicycle and pack all of my belongings in under 20 minutes. Although I don’t hop on a plane every 7 days for a weekend getaway, it’s nice to have control and to be given the option.
If you are as stressed and tired of the bullshit you need to take action. Write down one thing you can do right now in order to improve the quality of your life.
Peace & PMA
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